My little bean was a great sleeper for the first week.. that’s about it! From the 2nd week onwards, her sleep pattern was not great. She would sleep well at times, and then catnap at others. It was really difficult for me to gauge her sleep, and that made me really stressed. I felt as though I was doing something wrong by her, which is why she was not sleeping. My hubby and I would go through the 4 point checklist for her restlessness – 1. Has she been fed, 2. Has she been burped, 3. Has her nappy been changed, and 4. Is she sleepy?
Despite our every effort to do all the above, she still did not get a good sound sleep. By week 4, she just was not sleeping during well. She would play for long hours during the day and would keep us up at night. She did not like the swaddle, and it’s too cold to let her sleep without any cover. We ended up buying the ergoCocoon, which worked wonders for almost 2 weeks. She slept comfortably in that, and it’s really friendly to use. She loved having her hands out and therefore the ergoCocoon became our best friend.
But at some point around week 6, her sleep pattern changed. She again became difficult to put to sleep and it made us really tired. I read so many articles, blogs, Facebook posts, etc., and decided to use the swaddle again. Yes, I know she does not like it, I know she hates for her arms to be tied down, and I know she will probably try to wriggle out and get irritated when she can’t, but I was desperate. I reintroduced the swaddle and everything I feared happened. But, she slept. I don’t know if it’s the feeling of being squashed or the tiredness from trying to get her arms out, but all I know is that it works. I still swaddle her to this date (she is 8 weeks 2 days). She is growing out of the swaddles, they are becoming shorter for her and so it won’t be long before I have to stop using them, but I can’t thank them enough for giving me my sleep.
Once she slept, she was a good sleeper. But it was the ‘putting-to-sleep’ part that was a nightmare. Till date, she has difficulty falling asleep. One day, I saw a marketing post in Facebook about the Baby Shusher. I told my husband I wanted to buy it as so many people had positively reviewed the product. It was costing $40+ but I didn’t care, I just wanted my baby to sleep. My hubby said “if it makes you happy, buy it”. I went all the way to checkout, but forgot my PayPal password, so couldn’t complete the purchase. The next day, my hubby said “I hope you haven’t bought the Baby Shusher”. He showed me this app called Sound Sleeper, which is a free download from the App Store, which had white noise for children of all ages. It also included the shushing… Bingo! We tried it and it was magic! She slept… not with the shushing sound though. She slept mostly with the sound of hairdryer. We used it every time we put her to sleep, that even we got used to it.
As parents, we worry about our babies’ sleep so much that we don’t give much thought about our sleep. But during this time, I realised that it is equally important for parents to get enough sleep, for only then we can provide uncompromised care for our babies.
Despite the ergoCocoon, the swaddling, and going through the 4-point checklist, there are days when my moonpie just does not want to settle and sleep. She is a gassy baby (but she is not colic), so she spends a lot of her energy farting. Because of that, we spend a lot of time burping her, but I wouldn’t say that it promotes sleep or anything. She is a model baby for the ‘witching hours’ description. She cries so much at times that if the walls had holes, my neighbours would be falsely reporting us for child neglect. But once she sleeps, she is like an angel!
Of course, I have again read various posts on as many websites as possible, and I believe she is currently going through a growth spur. Hopefully that will settle soon, and we will have a settled baby who sleeps as well during the night as she sleeps during the early hours of the day.
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